January
2018- Relinquish control
I’ve been thinking a lot about what to write about for
this month’s column. I wanted to avoid
the usual ‘resolution’ stuff as sometimes that all gets a bit boring and
predictable. I’m not going to suggest
that you write ‘new year resolutions’ this year, for what you are going to
achieve this year is so much more than just ticking a load of things off a
list, or crossing off the ones you didn’t do. It’s going to be part of the bigger picture. I remember last January asking you to do a
resolution star. Did you do this? It was rather more like a wish list I guess,
asking you to make some dreams into a reality, to really push the boat out with
what you wanted to set in motion to achieve.
Did you do this? Or like me did
you think about doing it, do it and have now forgotten what you did with
it?? Well I’m telling myself that I
don’t need a list from last January to know whether I have achieved what I set
out to achieve! Moreover it’s not even
about berating one’s self for the stuff we didn’t do and cheering ourselves on
for the things we did do. I would prefer
just to reflect upon the year itself and ask what lessons have I learnt? What have been the themes of the year? Many people get to New Year’s Eve and don’t
want to look back over the year, whether good or bad, they just want to leave
it in the past and move on. Yet sometimes we have to look back wards in order
to move forwards. It seems an awfully
difficult thing to take a step backwards, whether it be in a work situation, a
financial one, or an emotion one. We
don’t want to revisit those situations or feelings that we found ourselves in
when we were in that place from before.
But it is worth remembering, particularly if you feel, ‘why am I going
backwards, I feel embarrassed/ashamed/like I have failed’ that for many, a step
backwards allows us to be in a better position to move forwards. Yes it can be demoralizing to take a step
back, but if it allows you to regroup, re assess and examine what you need to
learn from this, then you will take double the steps forward that you would
have done originally.
I was talking to my friend about the column and what I
was going to write for January and she told me that the biggest ‘theme’ of her
year if you like, had been the discovery of how wonderful people can be and how
caring during difficult times. My friend
has a family member who has this year been diagnosed with cancer and she said
how they have been bowled over by the gestures of kindness and love shown to
them all over this year. Sometimes it
takes a crisis to really be shown who your true friends are and to bring out
the best in people. So I was wondering
what have the themes of my year been? (If I just move the cat who is sitting on
my notes I’ll be able to tell you). Ah
yes, like many other people we’ve had some disasters this year, Bob
(aforementioned cat) going missing, my mother fell and broke her leg badly, my
sister is still out of work a year on, I thought I’d bought football tickets
for my husband’s birthday and there was a mess up so he and my Dad got to
Anfield and there were no tickets…… the kids have had head lice TWICE now (most
recently found some yesterday)….a tragic death in my best friend’s family……. I’m
sure some of these sound familiar to you too.
But what I have noticed isn’t necessarily the theme of disaster, for there
were good things too, (bob returning, my charity dancing which I loved, getting
articles published in Spirit and Destiny and Kindred Spirit mag), but moreover
the feeling of not being able to control everything. Even when you think you have all bases covered
life comes up and bites you on the derriere so to speak with a little surprise
that you just weren’t expecting! I am a very organised person, so I like to be in
control of what is going on in my home, my work, and my life in general. Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that all
the time! But it is certainly a lesson
for me in relinquishing control.
Sometimes if you are able to ‘let go’ of the things that you worry about
everything turns out ok in the end.
Worrying really really does not change anything. Things will happen whether you worry or
not. There are times when life seems at
a standstill, yet things are moving and changing all the time, it’s just we cannot
always see them. Like the sprouting of
new life in the spring when we see the green shoots emerging from the earth (I
can see snowdrops starting to sprout already), things are evolving and
changing, we don’t see how they are growing underneath the earth, but be
assured they are. Likewise some changes
occur so slowly that we don’t notice them until later. Watch a huge Ferris wheel, it moves so slowly
that it appears not to be moving at all, but it is moving nonetheless.
Practical
Magic
Write down your worries.
Write EVERYTHING down, from daft little ones like ‘I’m worried I might
over sleep tomorrow’ to the big ones.
What do you gain from worrying about these things? Are any of them likely to change by your
worrying? Can you do anything practical
to alleviate your worries? (e.g. if one
of them is worrying about over sleeping then you can set more than one alarm or
ask a friend or neighbour to give you a wakeup call). Lots of worries can be alleviated by practical
measures or by sharing them but we have to accept that some things you really
cannot change. Worrying about whether it
will rain or whether you got that new job or not isn’t going to change the
outcome. But you can take a brolly and
you can do your best in an interview, and if it’s not gone your way this time
then there’s always next time. Once you’ve
got your list and you’ve assessed if anything on there really deserves the
energy of your worrying, then burn it and as you burn it imagine being free of
all those worries. As thoughts come into
your head just gently bat them away and try to imagine how wonderful it would
be to be worry and stress free. If you
have some sage (sage sticks for smudging) light this and ‘smudge’ yourself and
your house. Smudging is an old Native American
ritual for ridding your aura and your house from negative or damaging
energy. The sage smells quite pungent
and will purify the energies it comes into contact with. Hopefully you will feel a little
lighter. You can do this to your home
and around yourself as often as you feel the need, but take care wafting your
lit sage stick!
Crystal
of the Month – Black Obsidian
This crystal is often used for protection as it absorbs
negativity, particularly negative energy which has created a ‘smog’ around
you. It is also used as shield against
psychic attack, so if you are doing any spiritual or psychic work this stone
will guide and protect you. It was used
as a tool for scrying in days gone by and can still be used on your third eye
to gain prophetic knowledge or past life healing. Given our theme this month is about releasing
the past year and learning from it, your black obsidian stone will aid you in
dealing with any life lessons that have cropped up over the last 12 months. We
have to deal with and then release the past in order to move forward.
The crystals themselves are formed when molten lava has
cooled very quickly, before having the chance to turn into glass. Obsidian comes in many colours, rainbow which
can be iridescent and snowflake obsidian.
The black obsidian is the best for working with past life issues and
protection. If you feel you have lost a
sense of direction in this life, place it on your third eye (middle of your
forehead) and ask the question ‘what am I meant to be doing here, what issues
from my past lives should I be learning about’ and possibly you will start to
intuitively feel the answers.
Angel
Card of the Month- Your Children Are Being Watched Over By Angels
This card comes up when Archangel Michael wants you to
know that he is paying particular attention to your children. He is guiding
them to stay safe and ensuring they develop their spiritual gifts and discover
their divine life’s purpose. Perhaps
your children have been ill over the winter months with colds and coughs they
cannot shake off, be assured Michael is looking after them. (although he may
have taken his eye off mine again with the resurgence of head lice…) Possible
specific meanings: Your life’s purpose involves children; a healthy pregnancy
and birth is shown; an adoption will be successful; spend time with indigo and
crystal children; take care of your inner child; a child in heaven is happy and
sending love; your children are okay; give worries about your children to god
and the angels.
Moody
Moon
There are 2 full moons in January and both are
supermoons!! This is going to be a very special, powerful month. Basically a supermoon occurs when the moon is
full at the same time as her orbit is closest to the earth, so the moon will
appear much bigger and brighter than usual.
The first full moon is on January 2nd at 02.24am in the sign
of Cancer. Cancer is an extremely
sensitive sign, usually associated with the mother and the home, and is ruled
by the moon herself, so this might be a particularly emotional day for those
born under this sign of the zodiac. It
may also highlight matters within the home and family that need your
attention. This full moon is also called
the Wolf moon, as villagers used to hear the sound of wolves howling around
this time of year. (All the moons were
named by Native American Indians as a way of keeping track of time). There is a second full moon this month and thus is named
a ‘Blue moon’ as it is unusual to have two full moons in one month, in fact it
only occurs once every 2 or 3 years, but this year we have two full moons
happening again in March! I really think
the first 3 months of this year are going to be quite spectacular with lots of
drama and important events occurring. So
the Blue moon occurs on 31st January at 13.26 in the sign of Leo,
this sign is about drama, ego and loyalty.
To add to the mix there is a total lunar eclipse at 13.29 on the 31st,
but unfortunately this won’t be visible from the UK. If you are lucky enough to be in north Eastern
Europe, North America, the pacific or north and west South America you will be able
to see this magnificent eclipse. A total
lunar eclipse happens when the moon travels through the dark central portion of
its shadow and the earth blocks all direct sunlight from falling onto the moon’s
surface. When a total lunar eclipse
occurs the moon is called a Blood Moon, hence the old saying ‘there’s blood on
the moon’ which foretold of disaster.
This is just superstition, for the red colouring is only due to the fact
that as the sun’s rays pass through the atmosphere some of the colours are
filtered which causes the light that does reach the moon to have a reddish hue,
hence the fact that the moon is called a blood moon. Depending on the atmosphere during the
eclipse different colours of the light spectrum may also be filtered out, so
sometimes the moon will take on a yellow, orange or brown look.
The new moon falls on January 17th at 02.17 in
the sign of Capricorn. New moons are a
good time to start new projects, anything started now will have the strong
solid influence of Capricorn. Don’t
expect quick results though, Capricorn is ruled by the goat, sure footed but
slow and steady. Think ‘the second mouse
gets the cheese’ and you won’t be disappointed.
On 4th January you might be lucky enough to
see Quadrantids Meteor shower. If you
look to the northeast after midnight you may see up to 80 meteors per hour,
although the brightness of the recent full moon may hinder the display
somewhat.
Eat:
root vegetables, blood oranges, salmon, skate, lamb.
Play:
Want a dog but your lifestyle just wouldn’t work with it? Log onto borrowmydog.co.uk and you can
register to borrow other people’s dogs for walkies, cuddles or the odd weekend.
Love: The
fact you get to start anew in January.
Anything is possible!
